WHAT ARE YOU FOCUSING ON?

I sit here at work trying to watch the Inagural speech only to be distracted by the conversation going on in the room. Here are some of the comments.......

OMG....did you hear how badly he slipped up?
ha...She's wearing yellow
Why isnt he wearing a coat?


People......Does it really matter that he slipped up in his speech? He's human for heavens sake. What would you be like standing there in front of that many people in the freezing cold knowing that you are making history? Would you be perfect? And his wife wearing yellow...well...quite frankly it complimented her, so why not??? And...don't you think that if he wanted to wear a coat he would have......

I had to leave the room.....

I am choosing to focus on the positive things in life. Remember what the law of attraction says.....

What you focus on you become. You become what you think about most and you attract what you think about most.

I would have liked to listen to his speech and I will.

Here are a few rules of engagement that a brilliant man wrote and calls "The Four Agreements"

1. Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don't take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions and action of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don't make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you realy want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement you can completely transform your life.

4. Always do your best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self abuse and regret.

Practice these agreements. When you do, you will not be so worried that someone slipped up in a speech or that someone is wearing yellow. Live in a state of gratitude. I will gaurantee that when you practice these agreements and achieve a state of gratitude...you will find ultimate happiness.

TO YOUR SUCCESS!!

http:/www.ManifestWithMelanie.com

What are you focusing on???

TAKE A STEP BACK

I was in the grocery story the other day...my head in thought...on so many different thoughts and I was trying to focus on finding vegetarian foods for the girl I took in. I was making my self crazy....I felt stuck...I felt like my brain could just not focus.......

I searched for Boca products....because I knew she would like that...I became more and more frustrated. I remembered that I should just take a deep breath and quiet my brain.

I closed my eyes...took a step back and took a deep breath. When I opened my eyes...right there in front of me was exactly what I was looking for...it was there all along...right under my nose!

What's the moral of this story?

When you feel stuck...no matter what it is...just take a step back, take a deep breath and quiet your brain.

The answer you are searching for will be right there....under your nose.


To your success!!!!

http://ManifestWithMelanie.com

BREATHE

BREATHE...yes...thats what you should do. You know most women (and a good many men for that matter) go through life feeling stressed. I know this by my patients. Women come in to me and I always have to tell them to relax their shoulders. Firstly it allows more breast tissue to be in view, but it also helps the patient de-stress.

I explained to my patient today the fact that when we are stressed our body produces some hormone or chemical that robs the body of oxygen, which in turn makes us more stressed. Its a vicious cycle.

So...when you are stressed...take a very deep breath in through your nose. (so that you fill your entire lung capacity) and slowly let the breath out through your mouth. As a matter of fact...don't do it only when you feel stressed but also at other times to help maintain a non stress state.

Take your hour of power each day for yourself and do what ever makes you FEEL good. If its meditating, then meditate, if its running then run. If its just sitting on the couch in peace and quite then sit. But do it for you and when you do it remember to breathe.

I tell this to all my patients, all my coaching clients, all my VA clients and to all of you...my good friends.

TO YOUR SUCCESS!!

http://www.ManifestWithMelanie.com

God's Menu

A good friend sent me this note. It's been said that God firs separated the salt water from the fresh, made dry land, planted a garden, made animals and fish.... all before making a human. he made and provided what we'd need before we were born. these are best and more powerful when eaten raw....



I also found the exact same thing in Healthy Inside magazine........



A sliced carrot looks like the human eye. the pupil, iris and radioating lines look just like the human eye...and yes, science now shows carrots greatly enhance blood flow to and function of the eyes. Carrots are rich in beta-carotene, which the body converst to vitamin A. Your eyes need A to maintain the health of cells in your corneas, the transparent tissue that covers the eye and protects it from germs, dust, inflammation and infection.



The Tomatoe has four chambers and is red. The heart has four chambers and is red. All of the research shows tomatoes are loaded with lycopine and are indeed pure heart and blood food. Grapes hang in clusters that has the shape of the heart. Each grape looks like a blood cell and all the research today shows grapes are also profound hear and blood vitalizing food. Red and purple grapes (along with other dark fruits and vegetables) contain flavonoids, which experts say protect against disease, as well as cancer and brain-aging. A recent study from the University of Michigan also found that the heartshaped clusters of fruit may help control blood pressures.



A Walnut looks like a little brain, a left and right hemisphere, upper cerebrums and lower cerebellums. Even the wrinkles or folds on the nut are just like the neo-cortex. We now know walnuts help develop more than three dozen neuron-transmitters for brain function. Walnuts are essential to cognitive performance, memory, and nerve health.



Kidney beans actually heal and help maintain kidney function and yes, they look exactly like the human kidneys.



Celery, Bok Choy, rhubarb and many more look just like bones! These foods specifically target bone strength. Bones are 23% sodium and these foods are 23% sodium. If you don't have enough sodium in your diet, the body pulls it from the bones, thus making them weak. These foods replenish the skeletal needs of the body. Bok Choy is an excellent source of calcium, a mineral that's essential for keeping bones strong and dense. Rhubarb is rich in vitamin K, which helps activate three proteins involved in bone health and increases bone-mineral density.



Avocadoes, eggplant and pears taget the health and function of the womb and cervix of the female-they look just like these organs. Today's research shows that when a woman eats one avocado a week, it balances hormones, sheds unwanted birth weight and prevents cervical cancers. and how profound it this? It takes exactly nine months to grow an avocado from blossom to ripened fruit. There are over 14,000 photolytic chemical constituents of nutrition in each one of these foods.



Olives assist the health and function of the ovaries. An italian study found that women whose diets included a lot of olive oil had 30 percent lower risk of ovarian cancer. The reasons are unclear, but the healthy fats in the oil may help suppress genes predisposed to cancer.



Melons and cirtus fruits look just like the mammary glands of the female and actually assist the health of the breasts and the movement of the lymph in and out of the breasts. Oranges and melons are rich in immune-boosting vitamin C and some studies indicate that a C-heavy diet (from food, not supplements) helps prevent breast cancer.



Figs are full of seeds and hang in twos when they grow. Figs increase the mobility of male sperm and increase the numbers of Sperm as well to overcome male sterility.



Sweet potatoes look like the pancreas and actually balance the gycemic index of diabetics. They release sugars gradually into the blood stream. That means they don't stress the organ.



Onions look like the body's cells. Today's research shows onions help clear waste matierial from all the body cells. They even produce tears wheich was the epithelial layers of the eyes. A working companion, the garlic also helps eliminate waste materials and dagnerous free radicals from teh body.



I hope you found this as intriguing as I did!

Take time to listen

I suppose that todays post is a lesson on listening. And yes, I learned another lesson from another patient. You see, my patient is 93 years old. She has such beautiful twinkling eyes. She is not as frail as you would expect a 93 year old but still seemed a bit depressed all the same. Her daughter came with her. But what I noticed is that the daughter did not listen. She dismissed what her mom had to say about the pain in her back and hips with the excuse...mom...its old age...you are 93. You don't need to see the Doctor about this.

My, what a statement to say to the woman that raised you. Well, I decided to listen. She explained how she feels as though her back is always in a strain and that by the time it is time to go to bed at night she is in so much tension that she cannot sleep.

I watched how my patient got on the table and realized that the only problem she really had was how she moved her body. As soon as she finally got still I put a block under her legs....her knees were bent, her legs at a 90 angle to her body. She looked at me and with a gleem in her eye stated that this was the most comfortable she has been in 40 years. Her daughter whipped her head around in disbelief. I explained ergonomics to both. I explained how to lay down properly and how to get up properly.

You know, after listening to the history of this woman and how she had been to many Doctors to find out what was wrong with her I realized that all anyone really needed to do was just listen to this patient. All she needed was to learn good body mechanics so that the muscles in her back could relax....we accomplished this in half an hour. Had anyone really listened to her 40 years ago...can you imagine what a life changing experience she would have had? This patient thanked me....gave me a hug...told me how much she appreciated that I just listened to her.

So the lesson here is simply learn to listen. When you learn to listen you can actually hear what someone is trying to say to you. You may even be surprised that when you learn to listen....others will learn to hear you.

I expect my patient to have a brilliant life from this point on. She is active, her bones are strong and she now has learned a tool that will keep her in a relaxed state. We should all think long and hard about learning to listen.

LIFE LONG LOVE

I called back my next patient. I was in a bit of a hurry. We were so incredibly busy. I did have a smile on my face, but it wasn't my genuine heart felt smile. I could feel a slight anxiety as I waited for someone to stand up when I called the name. It took what felt like an eternity, but there she was. She looked so warn out. Very frail. Very thin. By her side was a man. Probably of the same age...80ish. He too, frail, not as warn out looking but tired. He stood up first. He smiled at me....and then the most amazing thing happened.....He looked at her and said....okay...lets go you beautiful woman. She looked at him and smiled and it was as if his words put life back into her. She struggled but you could see the will and the desire to just get up and move. She did...my anxiety of time went away. It did take her some time to get to my xray room. He, steadfast by her side. And better yet...the two of them...chatting so very sweetly to each other. When we finally got into my room the man asked...can I stay with my wife.....How could I ever say no. As I xrayed her they told me their story. They met at a very young age. They've loved each other since. 63 years of loving one another. My heart was so filled. Two lovely people still madly deeply in love with each other.

I asked what the secret was. Both just looked at me with such a grin and then looked at each other....he said to me as he looked in her eyes..... JUST LEARN TO LOVE.........

So my message to you my friends.....Is just that......

Learn to love....

It starts with you and ends with you......

YOU are BEAUTIFUL

Yes..I said it...you are beautiful. I think that most people become very uncomfortable with loving themselves. Today I had the opportunity to work with a woman who everyone thought was so successful. She worked very hard, raised 3 kids on her own after her husband passed away. Her kids are thriving. She was an RN for most of her kids lives, but decided to go back to school and get her Masters degree. Which she did...very successfully. She taught afterwards but still wasnt satisfied with her life. So, to make herself "better" she went back to school, while raising those thriving 3 kids, working a full time job and a part time job, and is now a Physicians Assistant. "Well Done" one might say. But as I got to know this woman I realized how lost and lonely she was. We ended up sitting there chatting for at least 45 minutes. She let on to why she wasnt satisified about her life. You see, she was brought up to believe she wasnt good enough, or pretty enough, or deserving enough. How sad is that? There she was sitting in front of me, tears in her eyes and wondering why she felt so bad about herself.

After about 15 minutes worth of coaching and swaping email addresses and talking about fees I could see that this woman still has hope.

You see my friends, take a good look at yourself everyday. If there is something that YOU dont like..fix it...and I mean YOU. The only opinion about YOU that matters is YOURS. Get comfortable being YOU. Learn to love YOU. Change your language about YOU.

I will help this very unsuccessful successful woman find herself....and then love herself.....and realize that ....

She is Beautiful!

What about YOU?